Autism is a lifelong, neuro-developmental condition, which means that signs are usually noticeable from an early age. It is not a mental illness, but symptoms of autism can be similar to symptoms of severe anxiety or after childhood trauma, so it isn’t always easy to diagnose.
Autism can affect how a person communicates and interacts with other people and how they experience the world around them. It is a “spectrum condition” meaning that difficulties will affect people in different ways. Some autistic children may not be able to speak at all, while others have much more subtle problems such as difficulty in social situations.
Many autistic people are highly skilled in particular areas. In the UK, there are around 700,000 people on the autism spectrum (1% of the population, National Autistic Society). Autism seems to affect more men and boys than women and girls, although this may be due to autism in women and girls being more difficult to diagnose. Scroll down for some resources specifically for women and girls who are autistic.
Click here if you are a young person
What are the signs of autism?
The signs of autism will vary from person to person. In children, anxiety or stress can cause very similar symptoms. To diagnose autism there should be persistent difficulties in three areas since early childhood:
- Social communication
- Social interaction
- Restricted and repetitive behaviours, activities, interests or routines
If you are concerned your child may be autistic, or you are a young person who thinks they may be autistic, you should see the SENCO in your child’s school or speak to your GP to discuss whether a referral might be helpful at this stage. Information from family or school will be really helpful as a part of the assessment (preferably in writing so it can be sent with any referral). Young people on the autistic spectrum may experience other difficulties too, such as anxiety, OCD, depression, ADHD, learning disabilities and gender dysphoria. Referrals for possible autism in young people over 18 years may mean a long wait for assessment, depending on where you live.
Diagnosing Autism and Asperger’s Syndrome in Children and Young People:Information from the Royal College of Psychiatry
National Autistic Society: What is autism?
For Parents, Carers and Professionals
- Autism: social skills approach for children and adolescents by Maureen Aarons and Tessa Gittens
- Autism Spectrum Disorders: Practical Strategies for Teachers and Other Professionals by Northumberland County Council Communication Support Services
- Reasons for melt-downs: a check-list A useful list of possible reasons your autistic child might be having melt-downs or are getting aggressive by this US charity
- I’ve heard that ADHD and autism can be related-is that true?
Books for Parents
- The Secret Life of Rose: Inside an Autistic Head Highly rated for young people and their parents,
- Nurturing Your Autistic Young Person; A Parent’s Handbook to Supporting Newly Diagnosed Teens and Pre-teens
- A Boy Made Of Blocks A story of a father coming to terms with his son’s autism written from first-hand experience
- The Autistic Spectrum: A Guide for Parents and Professionals by Lorna Wing
- Girls Growing Up on the Autism Spectrum – What Parents and Professionals Should Know About the Pre-Teen and Teenage Years by Shana Nichols
- Asperger’s Syndrome: A Guide for Parents and Professionals by Tony Attwood
- Can I Tell You About Asperger Syndrome? A Guide for Friends and Family by Jude Welton
- Can I Tell You About Autism? A Guide for Friends and Family by Jude Welton
- The Reason I Jump by Naoki Higashida. Translated from Japanese with a very moving introduction by David Mitchell who himself has an autistic son. This extraordinary book was written by a 13-year-old severely autistic boy: he explains things like why he talks loudly or repeats the same questions, what causes him to have panic attacks, and why he likes to jump. He also shows the way he thinks and feels about his world. Highly recommended
Websites
- National Autistic Society (NAS) is the leading UK charity for autism support. They provide information and support to families and professionals and run groups in local areas
- Ambitious About Autism is a national charity for children and young people on the autistic spectrum. They have an online autism forum giving information and support
- The Curly Hair Project is a website with short films and resources for young people, their carers and professionals too plus online events but most resources are paid for.
- NAS Education Rights and Advice Service provides impartial, confidential information, advice and support on education rights and entitlements for parents and carers of autistic school-age children to help them get the educational support their child needs.
- National Institute for Health and Care Excellence
Autism spectrum disorder in under 19s: support and management. Provides information for older children, parents, carers and family members to help understand the diagnosis and the care the child or young person should be offered. - Asperger’s Syndrome Foundation Promoting awareness and understanding of Asperger’s Syndrome
- Box of ideas Practical advice & fun ideas for professionals and parents on topics such as dyspraxia, dyslexia, autism
- Young Sibs for siblings of children with special educational needs or disabilities.
- Findability Support for young people with special educational needs or a disability
Apps
- Birdhouse for Autism offers caregivers the ability to keep track of behaviours, health and daily living tasks.
- Habitica is an App that makes doing tasks into a game – fun for anybody but especially useful for young autistic people or those with ADHD.
- Choiceworks is for helping children complete daily routines and tasks, understand and control feelings and improve their patience. Available on the app store, at a small cost.
- DayCape allows therapists, teachers, parents, and even the child themselves to set up visual schedules (free)
- Children with Autism: A visual schedule a wearable picture-based scheduler designed with children and adults with autism in mind
- I Can Have Conversations With You! Designed to help children with conversation and social skills- this link takes you to a review.
For Young People (See also the apps and websites above and those for girls and women below)
- Autism Understood New website on autism specifically for young adults
- What is autism? How might I get a diagnosis?
- Think you might be autistic? Read more here from the National Autistic Society
- Autism Spectrum stories real real-life stories about autism from people of all ages
- My Life with Asperger’s True Story from The Mix charity
- Autism and Gender identity
- Dating with autism- to be or not to be?
Books for all
- A Different Sort Of Normal for 9-11 years Award-winning non-fiction book about autism full of doodles and pictures.|
- The Secret Life of Rose: Inside an Autistic Head Highly rated for young people and their parents,
- The Ice-cream Sundae Guide to Autism. For 7- 11 years, especially good for boys.
- The Asperkid’s (Secret) Book of Social Rules: The Handbook of Not-So-Obvious Social Guidelines for Tweens and Teens with Asperger Syndrome by Jennifer O’Toole for ages 10-17
- Frankie’s World A Graphic Novel for 9-14 years
- The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime by Mark Haddon (a novel)
- Freaks, Geeks and Asperger Syndrome: A User Guide to Adolescence by Tony Attwood and Luke Jackson
- What is Asperger syndrome and how will it affect me? by Martine Ives. A book for 8-13-year-olds
Books for girls and young women
- M in the Middle: Secret Crushes, Mega Colossal Anxiety and the People’s Republic of Autism by Vicky Martin
- The Girl With The Curly Hair by Alis Rowe
- Life on the Autism spectrum – a Guide for Girls and Women by Karen McKibbin
- The Independent Woman’s Handbook for super safe living on the autistic spectrum by Robyn Steward
- Aspergirls: Empowering Females with Asperger Syndrome by Rudy Simone
- Pretending to be Normal: Living with Asperger’s Syndrome by Liane Holliday Willey
- Asperger’s and Girls World-Renowned Experts Join Those with Asperger’s Syndrome to Resolve Issues That Girls and Women Face Every Day, by Tony Attwood