Fostered and Adopted Children
Most of the information on this website will be relevant to any child but the resources below are specific for children in care or who are fostered or adopted and for their parents and carers.
- After adoption –what help can we get? Advice on social, practical and financial support with links to the main charities and websites
- Thinking about adoption? Topics include ‘who can adopt?’, ‘support for adopters’ and ‘the adoption process
- Advice for parents who are fostering or adopting(including “How to tell your child they are adopted”)
- Thinking Allowed. This website is for parents, carers, social workers and other professionals and provides support for young people in care and/or their carers. This can include individual therapy or other support.
- Become A website for young people in care or care leavers with a helpline
Books for children
Many of these books and comments are from an article in the Guardian (22 Oct 2015) where adopted children themselves selected their favourite books and others have been recommended by professionals.
- William Wobbly and the very bad day, Charley Chatty and the Wiggly Worry Worm (and other books) Sarah Naish has written a series of books aimed at children aged 3-10 years who are fostered or adopted and may be experiencing difficult feelings.
- The Story of Tracy Beaker by Jacqueline Wilson. Told in Tracy’s own words, Jacqueline Wilson’s hugely popular series of books features a 10-year-old with a wild imagination and a short fuse who lives in a children’s home and would like a real home of her own. Touching and funny.
“I like Tracy Beaker because she’s a naughty girl in care and she makes me laugh. She’s cheeky like me but when I’m angry I don’t go as far as she does! It’s nice to read about someone who is going through the same thing as me” Phoebe, age10
- Picnic in the Park by Joe Griffiths and Tony Pilgrim. It’s Jason’s birthday and he has lots of guests at his picnic in the park, from all different sorts of families.
“I sometimes feel different to my friends, as they have a mum and dad, and brothers and sisters. This book shows how many different families there are, and all are happy, safe, and love each other, which is the most important thing. So now if anyone says something horrible to me, I tell him, I am happy with my family, then I run off and play.” Oliver, age 10
- A Nest for Merry: A fostering and adoption story by Eleanor de Bruin. A story for children who are leaving foster homes to be adopted recognising the fears and worries that might bring. Aimed at 5-11 yrs
- The Teazles’ Baby Bunny by Susan Bagnall
A picture book that tells the story of how the Teazle rabbits adopt a baby bunny and offers a gentle way to broach the topic of adoption with younger children.
“I liked it when the Teazles danced around because they were happy that they were going to get their own boy or girl and I liked the picture of the birds playing music.” – Danny, 5
- Nutmeg Gets Adopted by Judith Foxon
The story of a small squirrel, Nutmeg, and his younger sister and brother who go through the process of separation, foster care and then going to live with a new, adopted family when their mother is unable to look after them and keep them safe.
“ I liked this book because I could relate to it in a number of ways and I felt somebody else understood me even if it was just a squirrel in a book. All the issues they talked about in the book I pretty much experienced too, such as not having a safe home to live in and not enough food” Kelsey, 17
- The Most Precious Present in the World by Becky Edwards
Mia has different hair and eye colour from her mum and dad. Why? In a dialogue between a little girl and her adoptive mother, this simple, reassuring book explores some of the questions that adopted children ask.“When my mum chose me to be her little boy, I was happy, but I was scared too. My mum read this book to me when I was six, and we read it together, over and over. It helped me sleep. I liked it because it made me feel special and happy. – Oliver, 10
- A Safe Place for Rufus by Jill Seeney
Rufus the cat lives with a family who looks after him, feeds him his favourite foods and gives him lots of cuddles. He feels happy and safe, but he didn’t always feel this way. The family that Rufus used to live with were not kind to him at all. Thinking about his past makes him angry and sad and Rufus struggles to escape from his memories and find a safe place where he can just relax and be himself.
For parents and carers
The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting: Strategies and Solutions by Sarah Naish
“Succinct, practical often humorous and jargon-free books to help foster parents, adopters and any other parent caring for a child who has suffered trauma’
First4adoptionThis website has lots of great information including a list of helpful books for parents
Childhood trauma Beacon House have free training resources for people working with children who have suffered significant childhood trauma