Coping with Death or Loss (Secondary School)
When someone in the family is very ill, dying or has died, everyone copes differently and even adults often find it difficult to express how they feel. Sometimes, as well as sadness, there may be other emotions such as anger or guilt. There are a number of charities who specifically offer support and guidance for children and young people who have experienced a death in the family- many of these also have helplines as well as stories from other families.
- Winston’s Wish
Supporting children and young people after a death or when someone in the family is dying. You can also e-mail for support and advice. Leaflets are available to download in English, Swedish, Polish, Arabic, Bengali and Spanish. https://www.winstonswish.org
A national bereavement charity with a website section for children including some tips on coping written by young people themselves. You can also look up your local support groups here:
- Grief Encounter
A charity supporting children and young people through bereavement. They also have a helpline called Grieftalk which is open Monday to Friday 9am to 9pm plus the possibility of chatting on-line, posting memories or receiving support by text. Find out more here
- Child Bereavement UK
A charity with resources for young people and parents including some stories, advice on explaining funerals and leaflets produced by families for children of different ages (under 7yrs, 7-11yrs and young people) For 11-25 year olds they have also produced an App about bereavement and grief which has links for local support and some short films. There is also advice on supporting children with additional needs through grief.
Winston’s Wish charity have produced some excellent books about grief, serious illness and death (including death by suicide) including a book specifically aimed at teenagers; “You Just Don't Understand: Supporting Bereaved Teenagers”. These books can be purchased on Amazon and proceeds go to the charity or directly on the charity website (see above)
Apart of Me App: award winning App designed as a game to help children come to terms with loss and grief. https://apartofme.app/
The impact of a death in the family
with an example of a 17 year old talking about the loss of his father can be found on:
Advice on talking to your child about cancer
For those children or young people who find Mother's Day hard because their mum isn't around any more, have a look at this page on Childline